Your Wife !

How many forwards we get from our friends?..How many we actually go through them?…And even if we go through, how many we do remember. This is one such forwards I got, which I’ve been thinking for long but didn’t get an occasion to discuss…

This is a beautiful article: The woman in your life…very well expressed…

Tomorrow you may get a working woman, but you should marry her with these facts as well.

Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are; Who is earning almost as much as you do;

One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are;

One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your Sister haven’t, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements

One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;

One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family ,name

One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen

One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn’t want to; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won’t like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns
faster than  you;

One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your
irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;

Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won’t, simply Because you won’t like it, even though you say otherwise

One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met;

One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important, relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some and trust her;

One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house – your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly – your understanding, or love, if
you may call it.

But not many guys understand this……

Please appreciate 🙂

Chetan Bhagat’s Speech at Symbiosis

Good Morning everyone and thank you for giving me this chance to speakto you. This day is about you. You, who have come to this college,leaving the comfort of your homes (or in some cases discomfort), to become something inyour life. I am sure you are excited. There are few days in human life when one is truly elated.
The first day in college is one of them. When you were getting ready today, you felt a tingling in your stomach. What would the auditorium be like, what would the teachers be like, who are my new classmates – there is so much to be curious about. I call this excitement, the spark within you that makes you feel truly
alive today. Today I am going to talk about keeping the spark shining.Or to put it another way, how to be happy most, if not all the time. Where do these sparks start? I think we are born with them. My 3-year   old twin boys have a million sparks. A little Spider man toy can make them jump on the bed. They get thrills from creaky swings in the park. A story from daddy gets them excited. They do a daily countdown for birthday party several months in advance just for the day they will cut their own birthday cake.
I see students like you, and I still see some sparks. But when I see older people, the spark is difficult to find. That means as we age, the spark fades. People whose spark has faded too much are dull, dejected, aimless and bitter. Remember Kareena in the first half of Jab We Met vs the second half? That is what happens when the spark is lost. So how to save the spark? Imagine the spark to be a lamp’s flame. The first aspect is nurturing- to give your spark the fuel, continuously. The second is to guard against storms. To nurture, always have goals. It is human nature to strive, improve and achieve full potential. In fact, that is success. It is what is possible for you. It isn’t any external measure – a certain cost to company pay package, a particular car or house.
Most of us are from middle class families. To us, having material landmarks is success and rightly so. When you have grown up where money constraints force everyday choices, financial freedom is a big achievement. But it isn’t the purpose of life. If that was the case, Mr. Ambani would not show up for work. Shah  Rukh Khan would stay at home and not dance anymore. Steve Jobs won’t be working hard to make a better iPhone, as he sold Pixar for billions of dollars already. Why do they do it? What makes them come to work everyday?They do it because it makes them happy. They do it because it makes them feel alive.Just getting better from current levels feels good. If you study hard,you can improve your rank. If you make an effort to interact withpeople, you will do better in interviews. If you practice, your cricket will get better. You may also know that you cannot become Tendulkar, yet. But you can get to the next level. Striving for that next level is important.
Nature designed with a random set of genes and circumstances in which we were born.. To be happy, we have to accept it and make the most of nature’s design. Are you? Goals will help you do that. I must add, don’t just have career or academic goals. Set goals to give you a balanced, successful life. I use the word balanced before successful. Balanced means ensuring your health, relationships, mental peace are all in good order. There is no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup. There is no fun in driving a car if your back hurts. Shopping is not enjoyable if your mind is full of tensions.
You must have read some quotes – Life is a tough race, it is a marathon or whatever. No, from what I have seen so far, life is one of those races in nursery school,where you have to run with a marble in a spoon kept in your mouth. If the marble falls, there is no point coming first. Same with life, where health and relationships are the marble. Your striving is only worth it if there is harmony in your life. Else, you may achieve the success, but this spark, this feeling of being excited and alive, will start to die. One last thing about nurturing the spark – don’t take life seriously.One of my yoga teachers used to make students laugh during classes. One student asked him if these jokes would take away something from the yoga practice. The teacher said – don’t be serious, be sincere. This quote has defined my work ever since.
Whether its my writing, my job, my relationships or any of my goals. I get thousands of opinions on my writing everyday. There is heaps of praise, there is intense criticism. If I take it all seriously, how will I write? Or rather, how will I live? Life is not to be taken seriously, as we are really temporary here. We are like a  pre-paid card with limited validity. If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years. And 50 years is just 2,500 weekends.
Do we really need to get so worked up? It’s ok, bunk a few classes, goof up a few interviews, fall in love.We are people, not programmed devices. I’ve told you three things – reasonable goals, balance and not taking it too seriously that will nurture the spark. However, there are four storms in life that will
threaten to completely put out the flame. These must be guarded against. These are disappointment, frustration, unfairness and loneliness of purpose.
Disappointment will come when your effort does not give you the expected return. If things don’t go as planned or if you face failure.
Failure is extremely difficult to handle, but those that do come out stronger. What did this failure teach me? is the question you will need to ask. You will feel miserable. You will want to quit,  like I wanted to when nine publishers rejected my first book. Some IITians kill themselves over low grades how silly is that? But that is how much failure can hurt you. But it’s life. If challenges could always be overcome, they would cease to be a challenge. And remember – if you are failing at something, that means you are at your limit or potential. And that’s where you want to be.
Disappointment’s cousin is frustration, the second storm. Have you ever been frustrated? It happens when things are stuck. This is especially relevant in India. From traffic jams to getting that job you deserve, sometimes things  take so long that you don’t know if you chose the right goal. After books, I set the goal of writing for Bollywood, as I thought they needed writers. I am called extremely lucky, but it took me five years to get close to a release.Frustration saps excitement, and turns your initial energy into something negative, making you a bitter person. How did I deal with it? A realistic assessment of the time involved movies take a long time to make even though they are watched quickly,seeking a certain enjoyment in the process rather than the end result at least I was learning how to write scripts, having a side plan
I had my third book to write and even something as simple as pleasurable distractions in yourlife – friends, food, travel can help you overcome it. Remember, nothing is to be taken seriously. Frustration is a sign somewhere, you took it too seriously.
Unfairness – this is hardest to deal with, but unfortunately that is how our country works. People with connections, rich dads, beautiful faces, pedigree find it easier to make it not just in Bollywood, but everywhere. And sometimesit is just plain luck. There are so few opportunities in India, so many stars need to be aligned for you to make it happen. Merit and hard work is not always linked to achievement in the short term, but the long term correlation is high, and ultimately things do work out. But realize, there will be some people luckier than you. In fact, to have an opportunity to go to college and understand this speech in English means you are pretty damm lucky by Indian standards. Let’s be grateful for what we have and get the strength to accept what we don’t. I have so much love from my readers that other writers cannot even imagine it. However, I don’t get literary praise. It’s ok. I don’t look like Aishwarya Rai, but I have two boys who I think are more beautiful than her. It’s ok. Don’t let unfairness kill your spark.
Finally, the last point that can kill your spark is isolation. As you grow older you will realize you are unique. When you are little, all kids want Ice cream and Spiderman. As you grow older to college, you still are a lot like your friends. But ten years later and you realize you are unique. What you want, what you believe in, what makes you feel, may be different from even the people closest to you. This can create conflict as your goals may not match with others. . And you may drop some of them. Basketball captains in college invariably stop playing basketball by the time they have their second child. They give up something that meant so much to them. They do it for their family. But in doing that, the spark dies. Never, ever make that compromise. Love yourself first, and then others.
There you go. I’ve told you the four thunderstorms – disappointment, frustration, unfairness and isolation. You cannot avoid them, as like the monsoon they will come into your life at regular intervals. You just need to keep the raincoat handy to not let the spark die. I welcome you again to the most wonderful years of your life. If someone gave me the choice to go back in time, I will surely choose college. But I also hope that ten years later as well, your eyes will shine the same way as they do today.. That you will Keep the Spark alive, not only through college, but through the next  2,500 weekends. And I hope not just you, but my whole country will keep that spark alive, as we really need it now more than any moment in history. And there is something cool about saying – I come from the land of a billion sparks.
This is an Original Content from : http://www.chetanbhagat.com/blog/

B’day Baby :)

May 7th 2008 was one of the interesting day of my life. yeah that was my b’day and really had a gud time wid all my frnz. B’day Celebration not only comprises of Getting up early in the morning & Wearing the New Dress…but its something more than that. Lemme Tell U what it is…..Read below

Well for a b’day guy, the day starts arnd 12.00 am with his frnz wishing

“HEy….Many More Happy Returns of the Day”…

This continues till the evening and to him (I”m telling u this on behalf of guys !) everything looks fresh & New…his new dress too!. He’ll c to it that he never allows even a speck of dirt to stick to his cloth. And this guy expects all his frnz to wish happy b’day & wen he gets calls from his frnz, he reallly feels happy about the amount of friendship that he shares with his frnz.

The most important part of this conversation will go like this….

“Hey Happy B’day …”

“Thanks dude…Thank You..”

“Hey keep aside ur thanks an all….Tell me wen & where is ur B’day Treat?….”

“Yeah….errrrr…….I’ll give man….errrr…..in the evening…..”

[BEEP…BEEP….gets another call in between & the second calls goes to Call Awating Service…]

“Evening….oh fine…Tell me where…I’ll join..”

“errrr……(smiles to himself)…..I didn’t decide……I”ll give u a Call…ok?…”

(Some more of conversation takes place & then…..)

” Ok..chalo….bye for now…have a gr8 day….”….

So Treat will be the main focus. That is another gr8 occasion where all u give things to ur frnz which they wanted. This happens either in Ice Cream Parlour or in the Pizza Hut or in Some Restaurant. If time permits then group of them hang out for some Movies & the Guys Wallet Looses Weight in the name of Treat. Finally when the guys Wallet has reached to the extremity of the tenuity,….somewhat equivalent to the Hip of Hot Gorgeous Girl (!), all of them leave for the Day happily….but thats is not over….still more….

B’day Bumps !

yeah…this is something which the b’day baby never misses. All of the frnz assemble in one place with utmost happiness surrounding the Guy and sing B’day Song….& suddenly it happens in a fraction of second that these guys (& girls too)…who were very Good, nice to him…will show their Power of their hands in the guys Back…hehehe….

Poor guy !….but all those bumps will be sweet kisses to him (!). Thats how we shud interpret…..the harder the bash, the deeper the Love & Affection that those frnz have on him !…..after  giving beautiful bashes, then the cake cutting ceremony starts, The Guy with all his smiles over his face cuts the cake and shares it with all. But I tell u 70 % of the cake which is bought for the b’day by frnz, will not be used for consumption !. After the cake encounters the first few cuts, it is mandatory that all the remaining must be applied all over his face – A Free Facial That is done for a B’day Guy !. A Facial using choclates, Cream, Bread, Honey, Sugar syrup, Choco Chips & what not ??!!

then with all the cakes over his face, the guy is supposed to beam with a Smile 😀 & Gifts, to the Sony Ericsson, Nokia, Samsung, LG, Motorola Cellphone Cams & other Canon, Sony Cameras flashing around him. With the Cake & Cream dripping face he leaves to wash his face….but it suddenly happens to that Guy…..”why shud only he look Handsome in cake…?…lemme make others luk beautiful too……”

He pounces on the left over cake & grabs a handful of it …..and u know what shud have happened….the guys & girls running all over the place to protect themselves from the cakess & creams bearing b’day baby wid handful of cakess chasing everyone of them……making the place a mess…& finally after some screams & screeches…the day ends with Happiness of Celebration & Sadness of Leaving for the Day….

hmmm…..that was really a wonderful B”day !

Happy New Year 2008 !

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As the New Year moves in
And the Snow Flakes fall down
It cleanses the Earth
Leaving a white covering all around

Like the Snow on the Ground
that cleanses the Land
may your New Year start fresh
and your Horizons expand

WISH U ALL A HAPPY & PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR 2008

When the clock strikes twelve on December 31st, people all over the world cheer and wish each other a very Happy New Year. For some, this event is no more than a change of a calendar. For others, the New Year symbolizes the beginning of a better tomorrow. So, you look forward to a good year ahead, spread happiness with  wonderful New Year wishes. Have A Gr8 day ahead.